A few weeks ago, I was so tired I couldn’t even get it together. After spending multiple weeks of blogging, painting, hauling, cleaning and searching for treasures I found myself feeling creatively empty. I also found myself in tears over seemingly small things and really short tempered.
I was on the phone with my accountability partner when I said, “I spend so much time doing the things I don’t want to do that I never seem to have the energy to do things that I actually want to do.” Through my tears, I heard my voice crack and then betray me, “I am so tired.”
We as women seem to have an unrivaled stamina. We go and go and go. We push and push and push. We hold so fast and strong for so long we near the point of exhaustion. And we do it over and over again. I don’t know about you guys but I’m ready to get off the hamster wheel.
I gathered my clumps of tissues and my coffee mug from the back porch and padded inside to start my day. But instead of heading to my office, I grabbed another cup of coffee, my favorite magazines, a pen and loose-leaf paper. It wasn’t easy to blow my schedule off for a day of relaxation. I thought about my to do list probably a million times. I chided myself for “not having it together” even though I knew I had reached my limit.
I can’t say for sure when it happened. Maybe it was with the turn of each magazine page. Maybe it was sipping on raspberry lemonade. Maybe it was giving myself permission to nap. Maybe it was taking the time to prepare a healthy lunch and quiet my mind outside. Somewhere along the line, I felt myself let go and I started writing an honest list of things that were truly working for me. I also wrote a list of things that were not working at all. Parts of it were really raw but very necessary. Although I had napped throughout the day, that night, I slept at perfect peace.
A few days later, I received the book Love the Home You Have in the mail. Melissa Michaels is the author of the book and is also the creator of the popular blog The Inspired Room. Melissa reaches nearly a half a million women each month with creative and simple ideas. She’s a contributor for top publications, web communities, at (in)courage.me and was named the 2014 Better Homes and Gardens Readers’ Choice Decorating Blog Winner.
I gave myself grace, a full 48 hours and dove heart first into the book. It only took a few paragraphs and I was hooked. Then I got to page 62:
“Yet even a life we love comes with responsibilities, stress and work. No matter what kind of life we live or what burdens we carry, we all crave a refuge from the outside world where we can inhaled deeply, exhale slowly, and let the cares and expectations fall away. Our home is that safe place.” – Melissa Michaels
There they were, those undeniable words on the pages in black and white. It felt like she was in my head as I continued reading. She spoke about writing down goals that point to your purpose, living with a beautiful mess, creating a haven and the rewards of a daily routine. All things I needed encouragement in. The best part is that Melissa offers action-oriented steps, easy to achieve ideas and suggestions you can implement right now.
For example, I’ve recommitted myself to a morning routine and a nightly routine. It’s something I’ve practiced in the past but found myself compromising on more and more lately. There’s a load of laundry in the wash, my entire house smells like an Anthropologie store and later tonight I’ll treat myself to a new magazine and a long hot bath. I know it’s going to take consistently making these things a priority in order to make a lasting change. This is one reason I’m excited about taking the Love Your Home 31-Day Challenge found at the end of the book. Feel free to email me if you’re also doing the challenge so we can encourage each other.
Love The Home You Have is sold at Amazon, Barnes and Noble, iBooks & Dayspring if you want to get your own copy. I was provided a free copy of this book in exchange for my honest opinion. My honest opinion is that it’s awesome.