In this month’s, Encouragement of the Month post, we’re sharing thoughts on slowing down, summer bucket list ideas, and gently reminding you of the importance of filling your cup this season.
Let me ask you a serious question – when was the last time you did something for yourself?
Something just for you.
Has it been a while?
It has for me too.
I think sometimes as women we often struggle with making our own needs a priority.
I don’t want to speak for you but in my own circle I see so many fantastic ladies running around like Super Woman trying to make sure their homes are a place of comfort, their families are well taken care of, and their work-life is top-notch all while trying to balance the demands life places on them with grace.
I know for us, it’s been an incredibly busy season and as we slowly start the re-entry process of post-pandemic life, I know it has been for a lot of you too.
While we’ve really enjoyed the activities we’ve been blessed to participate in, I find myself still trying to do all the things and please all the people because I feel like I need to make up for the lost time.
I don’t think second chances are supposed to feel that way though.
Sometimes that “all or nothing,” mentality is a road that leads straight back to burnout.
Recently, things came to a head when I found myself unable to make what felt like a very basic decision.
Despite being up against a deadline and having all the necessary information and inspiration in front of me, I just felt totally and completely stuck.
The next day, I found myself trying to put the coffee creamer away in the laundry room instead of the kitchen.
Over and over again, our bodies are giving us little signs and clues to slow down.
Signs I’ve noticed in myself are when my brain feels foggy and cluttered, my emotions run higher than usual, my temper gets a little short, my tone sounds a bit curt, and trying to make basic decisions leaves me feeling silly from all the angst instead of confident and empowered.
You may have noticed similar signs to these and perhaps even others in your life lately too.
While it might seem like the tiniest things can “set us off” or “throw us in a tailspin,” the truth is that there have been both small and big things quietly building up under the surface all along.
We just haven’t taken the time to address them yet.
Pressure is weird that way, you know?
It can make us feel like we have to do it all right. this. minute.
Especially when we see hustle culture glorified on social media almost daily.
It’s not because we can’t handle the tasks at hand, WE CAN!
It’s because we haven’t taken the time to fill up our cup and do the life-giving things we know will make a difference along the way.
And instead of coming from a place of abundant joy knowing we’re confident women who work daily to make our homes and communities better, we come from a place of near collapse because we’ve stretched ourselves too thin.
So, as we fill our calendars with summer bucket list activities and memory-making adventures or embrace a back to basics summer slow down, I want us to think about what we *really need* this season.
Do you need a season of sacred rest or to finally step out in faith to pursue something new?
Is this a season of truly connecting with others or do you need to put a few opportunities on the back burner so you can invest in some soul searching?
Do you need to finally embrace Plan B, G, M, or T where your job, your relationships, your home life, or your goals are concerned?
Is this a season of harvest or do you need to make tending and cultivating your garden be it physical, spiritual, or emotional a priority this season?
The month of June always feels like the month of January to me because there are so many things about May and December that can completely derail our schedules, our daily routines, goal-setting efforts, and commitments.
If you’ve felt off-track, unmotivated, without inspiration, or not like yourself in general, now is a great time to reevaluate what is truly important to you and to give those areas of your life some much-needed attention.
Even if that means talking to your doctor and finding a fabulous therapist.
I’m not going to lie, there are times it will feel hard.
You might have to say “no” to one thing so you can say “yes” to something else.
There’s a chance you might have to wake up early or stay up late to get whatever you need to get done – done.
You might have to rework your calendar, hire a babysitter, or ask for help from family and friends.
You might feel like you’re missing out for the sake of your cultivating your dream.
There also might be a time when you’ve been courageous enough to accept an invitation to rest when crafting, choosing soft sheets, taking an afternoon hike, or “doing nothing” feels like a “waste of time.”
Do them anyway.
Not because you’re trying to be a rebel.
But because deep down, you know you’re worth the time and effort it takes to make the life of your dreams (whatever that might look like) a reality.
If you’re struggling with exhaustion and analysis paralysis like me, I hope you’ll give yourself permission to completely pivot with the gift of a slow summer.
A summer to fill your cup with the things that not only matter for this season but have the power to impact and sustain you for seasons to come.
A Few Slow Summer Bucket List Ideas to Consider…
- Treat yourself.
- Invest in books, a class, a job coach, mentor, or licensed counselor.
- Host an old-fashioned slumber party.
- Plan a road trip.
- Have a relaxing brunch with your girlfriends.
- Make homemade ice cream, popsicles, or sun tea.
- Attend a baseball game.
- Go on a bike ride.
- Create a new playlist.
- Watch the sunrise.
- Host family game night.
- Pick berries or peaches.
- Be a tourist in your own city.
- Go treasure hunting.
- Paint, sew, or craft something.
- Camp under the stars.
- Plant a garden.
- Wear a sundress to dinner.
- Try something new.
- Swim in the ocean.
- Eat off vintage china.
- Make power naps non-negotiable.
- Fly a flag.
- Mail a postcard.
- Sit in silence and listen to the rain.
- Make a bonfire.
- Watch a movie outdoors.
- Eat pie.
- Make a meal from the farmer’s market.
- Visit a museum.
- Say what you need out loud.
- Sleep in.
- Hike a new trail.
What’s on your summer bucket list?Until next time, I’ll see you on Instagram, Facebook and Pinterest.
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